K.R.I.S Protocol

As you know, my youngest son Kyrylo has Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, also known as PSTD. Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is an anxiety disorder that can occur after a person has been through a traumatic event. Kyrylo experienced such traumas while he was still in Ukraine and when he came to the UK with his parents, he unfortunately was sexually abused by them. I have had Kyrylo in my care for the last 4 years. (Since he was 2) He was first on a Police Protection Order, then a Child Protection Order. Kyle and I fostered him for the duration and was recommended to adopt him 2 years ago. It’s been a hard 4 years, with the amount of therapy he has been through and several attendances to A&E, when he is that traumatised that we have had to call for an ambulance, when he’s been at his worse.

He is getting better, which is good. However, we needed to find a way for staff at school, to identify when he is having a flashback or an attack of his PTSD. Last Thursday, he had an attack, where he could see his abusers (even though they were not there) and became very frightened and aggressive. He knocked over pencil pots on the tables, sent books flying etc and ran out the classroom screeching “leave me alone!” He also sent foam all over the place when he was running, by letting off a fire extinguisher. Thankfully, his 1 – 1 Helper used the phone on the wall by the whiteboard and asked reception to page me. I found Kyrylo in the toilets near the Canteen, where he was extremely exhausted by the trauma, that he had fallen asleep; sat leaning against the divide by the door. I carried him to Sick Bay, where he could rest and get over the attack. A couple of hours later, I went up to Sick Bay to see him. He’d just woken up and was really confused of how he got to Sick Bay. He could not remember the attack when I asked him about it. It was then, I realised we needed to think of a way, so that if he feels an attack coming on, we can get him the best care.

So that’s where the K.R.I.S Protocol (Kyrylo Requires Immediate Support) come into play. If he feels an attack coming on, he can raise his hand and say that he does not feel well and may he go to Sick Bay. Then his 1 – 1 helper will escort him to Sick Bay where he can be properly monitored. If a Teacher or a Teaching Assistant notices that Kyrylo is figgity or is staring into space, or is acting out of character, they will ask Kyrylo if he feels he needs to Sick Bay. If he feels he needs to leave class, he will be escorted as normal. Either way, if he goes to Sick Bay and he is in distress, either myself, Kyle or Jenny will be called. All staff are aware of the protocol and know how to implement it, if required.

Kyrylo already has what is called a “Day Bed” in A Bay on Sick Bay, because of his Narcolepsy. (A condition where he falls asleep  suddenly)  Special arrangements have been made, so he does 2 hours in the Classroom and the rest of the day is done in Sick bay, with his One to One. We have this arrangement with our school SENCO,  (Special Educational Needs Co-ordinator) Kyrylo, The Head Of Care (Kyle) and the Head. it means that Kyrylo can do his work, but if he falls asleep suddenly, he can be laid down to rest and be kept an eye on, at the same time. Of course, the main things is, that this arrangement takes into account his physical health needs and keeping him safe. he does not have a fixed time when he is up on Sick Bay. For most lessons, we are flexible, where he has the choice of Sick Bay or the Classroom. (However, this is restricted to 2 hours, so that he can rest if needed. He goes outside for playtime, with his 1 – 1, but unfortunately, he has to sit in a wheelchair to do this; to prevent injury if he suddenly fell asleep, fell and seriously injured himself in the process. He can access his “day bed” from 8am – 6p m Monday to Friday and this is an “open access” arrangement.

At home, he has a much earlier bedtime that the rest of the boys, (which he does not mind) and we have had to restrict some activities, where it needs 2  on 1 support. (IE: Swimming, where there is the higher risk of drowning)

Kyrylo requires a lot of support, as he has literally been to hell and back. He is lucky though, because he has 2 great parents, a family who love him very much and a school that is not there because the kids who attend have special needs, but because it is full of very special children, in a school that is full of love and understanding, where we care and share. It’s a lovely thought, don’t you think?

I am now going to a rehearsal for the Annual School Summer Talent Show, (which is being held at the end of term. That is not far away, only a few weeks!) I am doing a duet with my oldest son Josh. (The song is not a duet as such, but to help his confidence, I am singing it with him.)  The Talent Show is really good and has all sorts of acts, from juggling, magic acts, singers, dancers and much more! Josh and I are singing a track by The Cranberries, called Zombie. If you have never heard the song before, have a look at the below video.

School Paper Article

Kyle and I were asked to write an article in the School Newspaper, about the work we do Fostering. Of course, we were glad to write a article, which you can read below.

Fostering isn’t just about giving a child somewhere safe to live, Fostering is looking after their every needs, from healthcare to their mental health to making sure they get good education and get to have the same rights as any other child. This can be a little tricky, especially when a child has been placed under a Child Protection Order (Which can be  issued by a court) or a Police Protection Order. (Police Protection Orders can be obtained by the Police and usually last 72 hours, to provide immediate protection of a child. – Life and limb. In an emergency, where there is a immediate risk, [IE: a child being held at knifepoint etc] The Police can use an “enforcer”, [also known as “the big  key” ] to break in without a warrant. If there is no risk to life and limb, a court warrant must be issued first.)

We have 2 emergency beds, which are used for kids who come on emergency placement, either due to Child Protection, Respite or other reasons. The other 2 are long term beds. Our emergency Beds are used on a regular basis and are never empty long. The front door to our house never closes, as there is always a child in need, who need to be placed. It does wear me and Kyle at times, as some of the kids are high support needs. Either they have been abused , have mental health problems or other problems. Often emotions run high in the house, but Kyle and I address this quite quickly, before a fight or other inappropriate behaviour starts. (If needed we will restrain if needed. (IE: if one of the kids was about to walk out in front of a car, if one of the kids was about to throw a punch at one of the other kids or if they were about to throw something at one of the other kids or myself  \ Kyle and I, then we would use restraint. However, restraint is always the last resort and will only be used in an emergency.

Because of the work we do, our house has to be secure. (Due to the kids we foster) This means that we have have to keep the front door locked, we have cameras outside and we have a walled hedged garden, which is safe for the kids. Our boys know what to do if someone did get into the house and know to run and hide and then use the phone to call the Police, if they cannot find one of us. The boys are really well supported. As well as Kyle and I, we have Jenny, who is our Live In Carer, who is brilliant with the kids. We also have my Mum, (Linda) who works for me and Kyle part time as an extra carer. (Sat and Sun)

The kids have a near to normal life as possible. Some of the boys enjoy supervised activities over at the school, some go to local clubs, (such as scouts and Youth Club) while kyle and I do activities with the kids at home and out and about as well. (For instance, the kids like cooking, bowling, playing pool, swimming, watching films, having BBQ’s,


camping in the garden, playing on the games consoles and much more!) We have pets as well, we have our 11 year old  Rough Collie called Mollie and our 8 year old cat called Sox.  The boys adore the pets, who are very docile and are well loved by by the boys and by  myself, Kyle, Jenny and Linda. We use the pets as a therapy for the kids, as we tell them to open up to the pets, if they feel they have a problem they don’t feel they can talk to us about. (they don’t judge, they won’t tell you what to do and they won’t tell a soul, that I can promise you!)


Kyle and I have 2 kids we adopted as well. (Josh, who’s 13 and Kyrlo who is 6) With the other kids, our 2 sons keep us on our toes and have various problems and issues that we deal with on a daily basis. We often get woken in the night by one of the kids, (adopted or paperfostered) as they are either frightened or are not well. Sometimes this means we get less sleep than we hope for!

The Llama Inn (Sims 4)

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Front of the Pub, taken from the main road, complete with picnic benches

I have been spending some time with Josh this evening and we have been slowly, (over the last few weeks) demolishing everything in a neighbourhood and redeveloping it as a mini version of our village.

One of the buildings we have been working on, is the local pub, based on our village pub. (using photos of the outside and floor plans from the local Council Planning Portal) The good things about The Sims is, that you can really allow your imagination go wild and design your dream home. So, that’s

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The Bar Area from the Pool Room. (It’s still just a bare shell in this picture)

We decided that the bar area would have a very open plan feel, with lots of tables in the main bar area with a dance floor; while along the back of the pub, will be bench seating, with tables.

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Games Room

The Games Room has bench seating and a large pool table and darts board.  Towards the back of the building, there are separate male and female toilets, plus there is a kitchen and stair access to the 1st floor and the cellar.

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Beer Cellar
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Beler Cellar (Laundry view) the side door leads up steps to the outside and the windows are in pits outside, just like a real cellar would be like. The cellar also has water and drainage pipes.
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Kitchen Pantry
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The Kitchen has it’s own storage room, which contains dry food, as well as the large catering fridge and freezer. The kitchen has all the usual catering equipment, as well as a large cooker and deep fat fryer. To the rear of the kitchen, is a door leading to the Boiler House.

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Main Bar Area
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Lounge Bar Area
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Boiler House, complete with a  Boiler, Hot Water Tank and a  Circuit Breaker Panel
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Outdoor Smoking Area
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Beer Garden taken from the smoking area
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Updated Main Bar Area
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The Bar has also been modernised and looks really  nice now!

Outside, there is a covered smoking area and a large garden, which has tables and chairs, a fountain and kids play area.


Tomorrow, Josh and I are working the upstairs of the pub, so keep an eye on this post for more screenshots!

Kyle x

It’s Friday And The Weekend Starts Here!

Finally the weekend is here, which means I am off work for 2 days as of 7am tomorrow morning. In the meantime, I am at work again. Before work, I went to the weekly disco we do for the kids on a Friday night. We hold it between 7 – 9 in the Gym and Sam does the disco, with Karaoke. It is always a good night, the kids get up and dance, while some get up and sing. Of course, Sam and I get up and sing, along with a couple of the Care Staff and loads of kids! I sang Greenday – Basket Case  and I did a duet with one of the kids, singing Bowling For Soup – Girl All The Bad Guys Want, which got the kids singing and dancing along.

Once everyone was in bed,  I went about clearing up the Jets Lounge, but was called away; as someone on Sick Bay was poorly, which required an Ambulance. The child in question will be OK, but getting him checked out in A&E is probably for the best. He’s in the best hands and he has a member of staff from Acorns, who has gone with him. Meanwhile, the shredder in the Sluice Room has been fixed. I won’t go into the details, but we had a dead rat in the pipe, (which had climbed up the pipe and got stuck, as the pipe is full of water, with the steel blades of the shredder above.) As the rat could not turn round or swim backwards, it drowned and the mass caused a blockage in the pipe, causing the machine to back up and flood the Sluice Room, (which is in Sick Bay) Because it would not of been noticeable for a while, staff continued to use the shredder and so the metal drum continued to fill, until it flooded over the top. I have since put a sign in place, which reminds staff to look in the drum of the machine, before putting cardboard urinal bottles, cardboard bed pans or other shredded waste in the machine.

In 10 minutes, we will have a middle of the night Fire Drill. We do 2 fire drills for the Boarders every term. One is usually held early evening or during the day on a weekend, while the other drill is always conducted between 11pn – 3am. (These drills are spaced out through the term) Fire Drills are fun because not only do we have to get everyone out, it also allows staff to practice the evacuation of children that are wheelchair bound. We do this, by using an Evac Chair for those kids in wheelchairs, while those who can walk, are walked down the stairs. In a real fire emergency, we’ll try to evacuate as many kids as we can, until the Fire Brigade arrive. Sam will always come to school, if there is a fire emergency, as he will greet the emergency services, so tonight he’ll be mucking in to get people out the building and into the Gym as quick as we can! (We always take evacuated children down to the Lower Ground Floor, along the link corridor to the doors leading to the Swimming Pool and up the stairs into the Gym)

Once I finish work, I will go hope, have a shower and go to bed. (I usually get up again about 3pm) Then I am taking Josh for a haircut and I got to take one of the boys for new shoes. I hope on Sunday, I can have a chilled out day. Sam’s Mum Linda, always comes on a Sunday and has a roast with us, which is always nice and the kids love her and she loves them.

I hope you all have a great start to your weekend. By 7am, I am going to be knackered!!

Kyle xx

On Night Shift

Morning! Finally, Sam has given me a login for the blog, so I can start posting stuff under my name, instead of using Sam’s account. So I am on the night shift, (10pm – to 7am) so while things are quiet, I decided to go to my office, check my emails and post a quick update.

As I mentioned on my about page, Night shifts are the most fun shifts to work, as you never know what will happen. Tonight has been no exception, as I have had to deal with a backed up shredder in the Sluice, which required Sam to come and clean up. (The smell was rank!) Then I had to go an see a distressed pupil, who had woken up from a really upsetting nightmare. It was a case of taking him into the lounge, making him a hot choc and providing reassurance and a good listening ear. I use it a lot on Josh, when he has nightmares. The hot choc relaxes him and helps him get back to sleep and talking about it get it out his system.  Meanwhile, I have been doing laundry for the Jets Unit.

The weather is crap just now, but it doesn’t bother me, as long as at some point, it stops so I can have a cigarette; that’s a bonus. (But I think there is a wee chance of that happening any time soon!)

Kyle x

Cracking Political Parodies!

Thanks to Josh for showing me these videos on Youtube! Enjoy cracking Theresa may Impressions and Tracy Ullman as Angela Merkel singing 99 Luftballons (Hillerious) and Tracy Ullman as Angela Merkel singing Thge EU Song.

Don’t forget tomorrow to go out and vote – make your opinion count!

Jan Raven as Theresa May

Tracy Ullman as Angela Merkel Singing 99 Luftballons (Hillerious)

Tracy Ullman as Angela Merkel Singing The Brexit Song

Kyle xx

Social Workers Do My Nut! :(

I have just been sat with one of the kids at work, because his social worker has been and really upset him. Social Workers are supposed to help kids, not interrogate them until they break down.

I had contacted Social Services regarding this child, as he won’t eat and we can’t convince him to do so. I was hoping the Social Worker would have a calm conversation with him to try to get to the bottom of this, but instead, she started yelling at him, which started a slanging match and ended up with him storming out. When I asked her what that was all about, she gave me a dirty look and left. (Not very professional!)

I managed to locate the child and got to the bottom of the problem. (Being home sick) I said that not eating is not helping him and if he’s home sick, there are things we can do. Junior House has a Skype in the Care Office, so we can do video calls and there is also the phone, which residents can use on their units.

I have phoned and left a message for this Social Worker’s Manager to call me back, but knowing Social Services, they won’t. This Social Worker is not from our area, but regardless, you would think they learn some bloody manners!

Kyle xx

Removing Unsightly Teabag Stains From The Kitchen Floor


Tea bag stains on the kitchen floor, is one of the most common issues I have to deal with in my school and is one of the most annoying issues I deal with every day. (staff who cannot be bothered to walk to the bin with their mug, before dumping the tea bag)

However, there is a solution! I use Jangro Cream Cleaner for the job. It cuts through the stain with tea stain without any effort.

BB050-50_2Of course, do not need to use Jangro brand products, as any cream cleaner will do just as good job. (Do not use VIM)

For this job, you will need:

  • Your choice of Cream Cleaner
  • A green and yellow scouring sponge (Do not use steel wool scouring pads, as they will scratch the floor!)
  • A green bucket, filled with diluted disinfectant or hard floor cleaner. (I use Jangro Cleaner Heavy Duty)
  • A green socket mop head on a green handled pole
  • A yellow wet floor sign
  • PPE – Green rubber gloves

First, collect your equipment and put on your PPE. Now squirt a pea sized amount of cream cleaner onto the green side of your scouring sponge. Gently work the cream into the stain until it lifts. Repeat this, until all the stains have been removed. Rinse the mop in your bucket of diluted disinfectant and wipe over the area you have just been working on. Once the floor dries. Remove PPE and return all equipment to the cleaning store. Once the floor dries, you can remove the wet floor sign.

DbqQXmFor stains on kitchen worktops, you use the same method as above, by applying cream cleaner to the green side of your scouring sponge and gently work in. Instead of using a mop and bucket to finish the job, use your favorite kitchen spray. (Do not use any bleach based products on worktops) I use Cleaner Heavy Duty in a trigger spray bottle, but any kitchen spray will work as good. Use the yellow side of the sponge to wipe clean and allow to air dry.

Welcome To My Blog

Hi and welcome to my blog. I will keep this updated with cleaning and maintenance tips, stuff that has been happening in the family and maybe the odd photo here and there. I will try and update this page as often as a I can, but will be hen I get a free 5 mins. (due to my work and family life)

Please let me know if you have any ideas for the blog and I will see what I can do to implement it.